Some Common Myths About Swingers and Swinging
No other group of people seem to attract crazy and misguided misconceptions than swingers. A majority of those misconceptions arise from people taking a judgmental position (often coupled with religious righteousness), and making sweeping generalisations about swinger couples. Most assumptions are based on things they seen on TV or read in tabloid magazines about the swinging lifestyle.
Ultimately, no one really knows the truth about what swingers are like unless they’ve spent some time in the swinging scene. In case you are one such person who is curious but haven’t had hands-on experience with swinging to know differently, then let’s debunk a few of the common myths surrounding swinging and swingers.
Swingers are all fat, bald and over fifty
This is easily the one of the biggest myths about swingers! Sadly the term ‘swingers’ can’t seem to shake the idea of participants being a particular kind of person. Who lived in the 70s. To be fair, up until recent times, only couples of a certain age had the confidence and free time to explore their sexuality (see why we think mature swingers are hot) but that’s certainly not the case today. Thanks partly to the Internet and more relaxed views on sex and relationships in general, swinging is definitely not limited to the over-50s. Online dating websites are full of profiles of hot couples in their early 20s. And couples who are over 50? Their bodies often put the younger ones to shame! What I can generally say of swingers is that most put an effort into their presentation. Compared to the majority of ‘vanilla’ couples, swingers couples are looking good. Very good.
Swingers are trying to save a bad relationship
The uninitiated may misguidedly believe that only people who aren’t happy in their relationship would get involved in swinging. I mean, why else would you want to have sex with someone other than your partner? This idea really just misses the point of swinging. Swinging is about exploration and sharing. A couple that wants to explore and share together are far from needing relationship counselling. Trust us when we say that a couple in a bad marriage may try swinging as a quick-fix but few stay in it long. Being in the lifestyle means a couple has to be committed to each other and trust one another implicitly. If anything, the longer a couple has been swinging, the more likely their relationship is rock solid.
Women are forced into swinging by their male partner
Undoubtedly there would have been a time when it was more common for the husband to initiate the idea of swinging but that’s far from the truth. Even if the swinging is male-led, just as couples in a bad relationship don’t stay in the swinging scene for long, nor do couples where one partner isn’t into it, much less when that partner is very obviously being coerced into swinging. For swinging to be an enjoyable and successful experience for both partners, the decision to swing has to be mutual. Always. It’s not a problem for the topic of swinging to be brought up and encouraged by one partner initially, but pursuing and maintaining the swinging lifestyle should be a team effort. As for the partner who brings up the idea? These days it’s equally the male and female. Given the genre of cuckholding and ‘hot wife’ being so popular, if anything, the ladies are in control.
Swingers have no morals or ethics
Puh-lease! Swingers may engage in activities that may go against some religious teachings but let’s not confuse lack of piousness with lack of morals. Swingers are no more likely to steal your property or hurt another human being than your local church going school principal. Swinging couples are, however, more likely to understand and respect rules. They value discretion and privacy more than regular people. Even if some swingers are not worried about being ‘outed’, they understand that it’s important for others to keep the lifestyle a secret. Swingers don’t judge which is the most important thing. Swinger couples are also more honest with each other than most monogamous couples. Not all of us are complete angels but one of the biggest myths about swingers is their lack of integrity. It actually takes integrity to be a long-time swinger.
Swingers will try to convert you
Firstly, don’t flatter yourself! Secondly, you can safely assume that swinger couples have abundant ways to meet other likeminded folk. There’s certainly no need to convert the regular folk when most capital cities in Australia have hot swingers clubs and swingers parties. When there are fields already ripe with fruit, why bother going through the hard task of tending new land and seeing what it yields. If you should find out that your neighbours or best friends are swingers, don’t be alarmed. What they do in their private life doesn’t concern you. You’ll find that most seasoned swingers prefer to keep their lifestyle friends and vanilla friends separate. If you should be interested in swinging yourself, we highly recommend that you turn to your swinger friends for advice about meeting people, not ask “How about it?”. You may not like the rejection!
